​WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE


Oh! I remember those ancient times, times where the love of a woman shattered my soul, rendering me loveless and on the road i lay still..
But.. Papa never pushed me away, mama always pray for me, wishing me the best in life and an enduring wife to come by, so she can hold and embrace her grand child…

Papa drew me close but mama drew me closer….

From papa comes these words, striking words, words passed down from generations to generations, words of our ancient fathers, words encoded never to lead you on the wrong path…. these are the words papa said to me…

 

1.My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.
2.My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and family, please don’t let her go.
3.My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you hear that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning…that was our office.
4.My son, if i tell you that you are the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see that cute smile on the face of your wife.
5.Son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in charge of your salaries, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep asking you even when all has been spent.
6.My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound in her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a woman wounded both emotionally and physically.
7.My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will end up been single again.
8.My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
9.My son, under he cocoa tree that i did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closest thing we did there was to embrace each other.
10.My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead on spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that maiden that woman that stood by you all along.
11.My son, when i threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out it was not for sex, it was because i miss her so much.
12.My son, remember when your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.
13.My son, your mother Asake rode the bicycle before i bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
14.My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?
15.My son, there is this thing you people called feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other bills.
16, My son, i met your mother a virgin and i took more yam to her father, if you don’t meet your wife virgin, don’t blame her, what i didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
17.My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth i was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, i did not not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that i can be proud to tell you that i never for once beat your mother.
18.My son, i didn’t send your sisters to school because i was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers i see nowadays has made the male gender an ordinary tag.
19.My son, in our days our woman had more natural beauty, though i wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation  mostly on theory arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.
20.My son, your mother and i are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.
21.My son, remember i bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.
22.My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.
23.My son, pray with your family, the family that prays together stays together, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

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